For couples going through a difficult time in their marriage, and wondering if their marriage could be salvaged or if they should explore divorce, we can assist them by talking through the issues together. Through the process, it is likely that both would have better clarity of their situation and the way forward.
What is the difference between marital mediation and marriage/marital counselling?
Marital mediation is more goal and task oriented. It is meant to be short-term in nature, and practical. The mediator assists parties in identifying the main issues in their marriage and facilitates a discussion and agreement between the parties as to how they think the issues may be dealt with.
Marriage/marital counselling, on the other hand, tends to be longer term in nature. It generally involves diagnosis, therapy, and treatment of personality and/or relationship problems. The marital counsellor may require information of family and personal history.
Some couples would find marital mediation more effective. Others may find marital counselling, or a combination of both, most effective.
A suitable arrangement can be tailor-made for clients to meet their needs.
It is ideal for parties to discuss all issues relating to the divorce before filing the papers to avoid unnecessary acrimony. After all, if a wedding took up to a year or more to plan, shouldn’t there be careful consideration of all the issues and planning when divorce is contemplated?
Getting a divorce is a very emotional event for all concerned. We work collaboratively with family therapists and counsellors to meet the emotional needs of our clients, including children where necessary.
We assist individuals or couples in working out the basis on which they wish to obtain their divorce, the children's arrangements post-divorce, maintenance issues as well as division of matrimonial assets. Hence at the end of a successful mediation, parties may expect their agreement to be reflected in the actual court papers drawn up and ready to be filed in court on an uncontested basis (simplified track).
When mediating issues involving the child, the focus is always on the child and what is best for the child.
In appropriate cases, Child-inclusive mediation seeks to involve the child in the mediation process. This can be a very powerful process of involving the child, and giving them a direct voice in decision-making.
In discussion with the parents, even mid-way through the mediation, the child may be involved in a deliberate and careful manner, in some cases, with the assistance of a child consultant working in tandem with the mediator.
other MEDIATION services
- Family Business Disputes.
- Workplace Disputes.
- Commercial Disputes.
- Employment Disputes.
- Personal Injury Disputes.
- Sports Disputes.
- Community and Relational Disputes.
BENEFITS OF MEDIATION
- Generally, a more affordable and faster way to resolve disputes than litigation.
- Creative and flexible arrangements may be tailor-made to the specific needs of families.
- The outcome is put together and accepted by both parties, rather than court-imposed in the case of litigation, and therefore more likely to be sustainable in the long-term.
- The process can be empowering and dignified, and both parties have a say on its speed and scope.
- With court-imposed orders that either one or both parties find hard to accept, parties may be looking at years of court action to enforce or overturn the judgements.
- Litigation can create hostile dynamics and worsen relationships, which could be distressing for adults and have long-term impact on any children involved. It is also often protracted and costly.
- Undergoing mediation could help couples develop ways to resolve disputes and communicate effectively with each other in future, particularly where children are involved, and parenting arrangements require constant coordination and compromise.